Lessons in Fashion

"Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak." - Rachel ZoeI have a complicated history with clothing. I think many people do, actually, but mine has the added dimensions of gender feels and being fat. I was a hardcore tomboy as a kid, completely shutting…

Coming Out a Second Time

"The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else." - e e cummingsI've written so many versions of this post. Short and long, happy and angry, personal and impersonal. I'm still not sure where to start when talking about…

Coming Out Queer

I've always kind of questioned my identity, but never felt comfortable actually identifying as anything other than heterosexual -- despite my parallel discomfort with actually identifying as heterosexual.…