Lessons in Fashion

"Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak." - Rachel ZoeI have a complicated history with clothing. I think many people do, actually, but mine has the added dimensions of gender feels and being fat. I was a hardcore tomboy as a kid, completely shutting…

On Names

If I had been born a boy, my name would have been Ian.My parents had an agreement. If they had boys, my mom would name us; if they had girls, my dad would.My name is not common in the US. It’s actually Welsh, and much more common…

Coming Out a Second Time

"The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else." - e e cummingsI've written so many versions of this post. Short and long, happy and angry, personal and impersonal. I'm still not sure where to start when talking about…